Being liked and valued by your peers is human nature.

The only time it becomes negative is if you let it affect who you are in such a way that it interferes with your ability to be happy. 

It may seem hard to fathom, but you can learn to stop worrying about what others think so you can be satisfied and successful in life, your way.

 

Know Why You Care

The first thing you need to understand is that it’s normal to be concerned about what others think of you. 

It’s worrying and changing who you are without enough information. That is the problem.

If you care what someone says because it’s true and you want to change because it will make you a better person and happy, then it’s perfectly acceptable to embark on implementing that change. 

But, if it’s just to keep up with the jones, jealousy, or some sort of competition, you may need to dig deeper.

 

Ask Yourself Important Questions

 

The first question you should ask is why you even care about what these people think in the first place.

In the end, if the other person doesn’t like something you do or an opinion you value, what is the worse that will happen? 

It is likely not all that bad in the end, and you will move on from it.

Another question to ask yourself is, “Does it really matter?” “Will it matter in 100 years?” 

Does it really matter if your friend likes your dress if it makes you happy?

If it doesn’t change anything at the end of the day, then you are using your time inefficiently worrying about it.

Instead, focus on what truly matters so that you can take your mind off the unnecessary.

 

You Don’t Need to Please Everyone or Anyone

This is truly important to understand. Your life’s purpose is not to impress others or even please others. 

Sure, when you have a business, you want to provide value and solutions to your audience, but ultimately you need to do it in a way that makes you happy, or it won’t work.

Focusing on others too much is a sure way to fail because you will never be able to live up to everyone’s expectations as every single person is different and has different values that are personal to them.

Most people are not paying attention in the first place because they too, like you, are spending their time thinking about themselves more than others, which doesn’t have to be a bad thing if you’re empathetic and an unselfish person.

 

Learn to Love Yourself

The only thing that truly matters in your life is you. Do what you need to do to be happy and love yourself. 

It does not matter what other people think if you love yourself and are satisfied with your decisions at the end of each day.

There are plenty of activities you can do to be successful in this. Such as meditation, practicing a hobby, or completing personal exercises to get to know yourself better. 

Whatever you do, make sure it reminds you to love and accept yourself now for who you are today at this very moment, even as you work to improve the things you don’t like.

At the end of the day, if this is truly affecting your life negatively, it can be a good idea to seek the advice of a therapist.

Therapists can help explain why your thoughts are not helpful and provide exercises to help work through them. 

Sometimes this anxiety you are feeling can be another underlining issue you may not have realized you had. 

Don’t be afraid to seek help while you look within yourself to move on and leave the worries of others at bay.

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